Posted by Sam on 9/17/2008, 5:14 am, in reply to "Re: My Cheating Wife"
Lily ... I agree ... when you end a marriage ... even if the kids are now adults ... it still affects the family ... the grand kids. Further agree all avenues should be tried before one throws in the towel.
I think it is fair to say at this point she knows what I want out of a marriage. It has been a little over 10 years since I discovered her affair.
I tried counseling alone ... then with her ... then alone again. I doubt if she would see another counselor with me at this point ... and I'm not sure if I would want to see another counselor again.
Simply, I am tired of living this lonely life.
A few years ago a lifelong friend of mine caught his wife in a two year affair with her doctor. They tried counseling, then finaly divorced.
Today, 5 years later he is happily married. I would love to have a second chance at love.
Yes ... Once again I will sit down with my wife ... to better understand what she wants out of this marriage ... and I will explain my feelings.
Wonder if the feeling ever ends ... knowing how happy and in love ... she was with her lover. Looking back ... I think I have way to much information about their affair.
Yes ... Now she realizes her affair was wrong ... and that if she was that unhappy in her marriage ... she had other choices.
At the end of the affair ... I asked her lover if he wanted her. His comment, "No, I'm already married".
Thanks for listening.
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