Posted by Lily on 9/10/2008, 10:55 am, in reply to "help"
You are not wrong, he is. If he wants to save his marriage he needs to understand that he must break off all contact with this OW immediately. You have the right to know any details you want about the EA and the OW. I know how painful this is for you right now, but maybe it is time to add anger to it and show that anger to him. If this is a work relationship, which is the superior at work? If it is him he had better consider that the OW is likely to hit him with harrassment charges down the road.
He is addicted to a fantasy and he needs to get back into reality. He sees her only in the best of lights and to justify it he will decide that you are boring and unfilling etc.
I know you may be afraid he will actually leave you for this OW, but you are actually in control here, not him. Right now you have 3 people in your marriage and I am sure that you want one of them gone. Let him know this and make it clear that either she goes or he can go. Lies and deceipt are no way to live a happy married life.
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