Posted by Lily on 4/18/2008, 11:20 am, in reply to "What To Do ...mmm?"
Tom: I feel in your post how frustrated you are but having an A with this girl will not fix things and will cause a whole new set of problems.
Take a look at this from your SP's viewpoint. She has 2 young children which can be very stressful. I would guess she has few outside outlets such as a job or even perhaps time for friends. You say you go to school full time which might also be causing budget problems.
How much time do you spend helping out at home? Do you take charge of the kids in the evenings or fix dinner, clean up the kitchen etc? What true empathatic attention do you give your wife? You state she was abused in the past but seem to have no insight as to how that would affect her now. You say you faced your personal demons but that may be only from your viewpoint. You state you love your wife but in the next breath state your sex needs over ride your love for her. I see a lot of judgemental statements in your post and suggest you try for some personal therapy and then ask your wife to attend with you with the goal of improving your marriage. I can guarantee a few time of sexual pleasure with that young woman will not out weigh the nightmare you will have if you give in to this idea.
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