Posted by Lily on 3/1/2008, 10:53 am, in reply to "my husband cheated on myspace"
Finding out that your SP has feelings for someone else is very painful and just as serious as though they also had a physical relationship. All your feelings are normal but so is his not being able to commit fully to you yet. It is not unusual for the WS to have a hard time letting go of the rush that the A fantasy gives them. What they cannot see is that it is a fantasy and that real life with the OP would be humdrum and possibly very unhappy.
You are in charge even though it doesn't feel that way. Let him know all your feelings of anger and pain. He needs to understand the complete devastation he has caused in your life and by the ripple effect, in the lives of everyone you both know. I would insist on some counceling, certainly he has lost his right to use the computer unless you know everything he does on it. He should allow you to have access to his cell phone also. He should send a clear message to the OW that he is no longer available for chats or anything else and you should approve of whatever message he sends her. Until he has earned your trust again he must accept that his life will not be as free and easy as it was.
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