Posted by sophia
on 1/29/2008, 10:29 pm, in reply to "Still in Love"
Gayle,
There are several reasons why married people are unfaithful and most of them do not have anything to do with love for the affair partner. Affairs are fantasy. They boast our sagging egos, make us feel sexier and more alive. They are exciting and make us feel desirable. They are all about us and our needs and usually not about love. We feel that we "love" the other person for the way that we feel when we are involved with them and we miss that excitment when it is over.
What was happening in your marriage for you to betray it? Do you still love your husband?
If you do still love your spouse, you and he need to repair you lives now. You cannot still continue to go on with your marriage without repairing the trememdous wound from the affair, or without repairing the problems that allowed you to be unfaithful. You can have a wonderful marriage and a wonderul life but it will take lots of work by both of you. It is worth it.
Good luck,
Sophia
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