Posted by Sill on 1/9/2008, 4:38 pm, in reply to "New Here"
I'm sorry, I didn't really give you guys all the information, I just tried to make a long story short.
The day I found the number in his cell phone, I paid $15 to do a phone search and I got the girls name. Then I called his job and asked for that name and thats how I knew she worked there (she wasn't in that day). As soon as I realized she worked with him and before he admitted sleeping with her, I told him to be home by the time I got there. That day was the last day he was at that job. So it's been 2 months since he's seen her (or at least I think he hasn't seen her).
No I did not go through with the wedding. It was way to unsettling to know that I could have walked down the aisle with him and never knew anything about his affair.
I am really trying to get past it but it's not looking to good. In the beginning of all this, he was constantly apologizing and swearing to make it better, now he doesn't even try. It's like he knows he's back in the house and all he wants to do is act like it never happened.
I am a VERY verbal person so I am ALWAYS telling him how I feel but I couldn't get the truth out of him if I tried and even if it were the truth, I probably wouldn't believe it.
We start therapy on Monday so cross your fingers for us. I'm thinking that maybe if we talk in the open with a mediator we can get alot of things out but I'm sure it would be a waste of my money because he never opens up.
I'm not even sure if I want to get past this or let it go. I'm just so confused and everyday that I have to look at him, I just want to kick him out....
Onc
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