Posted by Lily on 1/9/2008, 11:14 am, in reply to "New Here"
Sophia is right that it won't always hurt so bad. But to repair the damage he first must understand the damge and admit he caused it. He certainly needs to end the relationship and since they work a the same place this should include his changing jobs as soon as possible. If changing jobs is not possible then he needs to retrain his brain to where he finds her repulsive and dangerous to your marriage and he should make it clear to her that all contact between them is over because he made a major mistake and loves you and you only.
Counceling is an important part of the healing process. It will help him wake up to how serious this is and will enable you to speak your thoughts in a safe enviroment. Please do not hide your anger or your pain from him. He needs to feel the anguish you are in as part of the consequences. He is the one that caused this pain and he is the only one that can help you through it.
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