Posted by Lily on 1/1/2008, 10:36 am, in reply to "My ex lover will not leave me alone...."
He is a stalker and could be dangerous. You must always take into account what could happen and the police should also take that possibility seriously. I would get some legal advice right away. A restraining order is a good step and may scare him off especially if it makes him aware that your husband knows. Sometimes having a attorney write a letter on your behalf naming you and your husband as the clients may also make him go away. Under no circumstances should you contact him since contact of any kind will just encourage him. I would also change email addresses since then the emails would get kicked back as not deliverable. Pain in the neck to have to do this but might be worth it. If he is using the computer at work a letter from the attorney could mention that the attorney is aware he is using a work computer and the boss will be notified if this does not stop. Do not delete the emails since they may end up being needed for evidence. Ditto any messages he might leave on your phones. It is possible he will tire of the game but it might be best to take steps right away in case it escalates.
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