Posted by bob on 11/19/2007, 9:35 am, in reply to "Not sure"
HI Gigi,
Following my divorce I found that my wife had been cheating on me lying to me almost constantly during our 14 year marriage. She is now re-married (to her last lover), and from the sidelines I can see she treats him just the same...liars are liars and thats that.
Anyhow, the relationship between your husband and his son is their business, not yours. No need to tell your son unless he asks...but do not lie to him to protect yout husband.
I've been over this with my therapist and attny's (not only did my ex lie and cheat on me, but she robbed me and our son...over 200,000 from me and over $10,000 from our son's college fund). The advice was always the same...let the child and parent have their own relationship and deal with thier own issues. Hard to do sometimes, but it has worked well so far. Don't demonize your ex, but don't lie for him either. If your son asks, tell him the truth: lying to him only undermines the relationship between you and your child, and you don't need to do that for the sake of you lying, cheating husband.
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