Posted by Lily on 11/14/2007, 10:14 am, in reply to "Not sure"
It seems like it is more frequent to see old timers who we thought were totally recovered, back on the site with this type of news. How he can claim innocence when he clearly was hiding the phone calls is unbelievable. We know the WS often does not learn on the first crisis but we never think it will happen to us that they will do it again.
The pain, as I well know from my own H's infidelities, is so deep that it seems that you will never climb out of the dark hole he put you in. I agree with your instant reaction to tell him to leave and to hire an attorney. I acted right away on my H's last A and it was what finally made him realize this was not a game anymore that he could win.
I will warn to be careful on swearing you are done because you may find in a few months that you will take another chance. Your son is at the age where he is not yet a mature adult but feels like he is. They are very vunerable and with him away from home it will be even more difficult. Your daughter may handle it better since she is a bit older and living at home where she can actually see what is going on. Perhaps it would be best if you both told your son in person, with your H taking the lead in the conversation?
Since you have the OW's phone number, have you called her? Has he told you who she is? You may end the marriage over this but you still need to protect yourself and make sure it was not physical with the risk of STD's etc. You are living the worst nightmare and one we all fear.
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