Posted by Lily on 11/9/2007, 10:55 am, in reply to "Someone with experience?"
My guess is that you will not have much chance of moving on and healing as long as he works with her. It is not truly ended until there is no contact and at this time it appears that is not possible. Also, you both should try counceling since it gives you a place to say what is on your mind and for him to do the same with a neutral person to help solve the issues. From your story, he does sound remorseful and realizes how stupid he was which is a big help. Now he needs to also realize how deeply hurt you are and how long wounds like this take to heal. After he no longer has contact with her and is in a new job you will surely feel somewhat better but it will take a long time before it is not your first thought on waking up and your last thought as you fall asleep. If he makes the move to quit the job at the first day he can without you having to prompt him, that would be great. If he does not, then remind him of the promise and make it clear you expect that promise to be kept. From now on there must be no lies about anything between you.
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