Posted by Vicky on 9/19/2007, 7:03 pm I am happy to say it has been 5 years since I found out about my H's affair and I (we) are doing well. My H started his A on 9/11 (I like to say Chicken Little thought the sky was falling!), so that day and week are always very difficult for me, even to this day. But somehow we managed to get thru all the pain and heartache. After MANY, MANY hours and dollars spent on counselling, we found a counselor who was the turning point in our marriage. She forced my H and myself to look at our marriage in a way we had not done before, and then things began to change. After the separation ended, I decided to go back to college and finish my degree. I finished that and started a few weeks after graduation in graduate school to get my Master's of Education. I am proud to say that I am in my last class and will receive my master's degree in December, and I was hired at the best school in our county and am teaching elementary school this year. I LOVE IT and I plan on thanking the homewrecking witch who tried to steal my marriage by sending her a copy of my diploma---maybe she can post that in her little secretarial cubicle!!! I would NEVER EVER have had the initiative to go back to school and achieve something I thought was very out of reach had it not been for my H's affair. It changed my life in so many ways for the worse, for example I feel I lost my innocent, loving view of our early years of marriage---but then again, I gained an appreciation for myself that I NEVER had before. So to anyone out there struggling with this, I just want to say that yes, it WILL get better. Even if it ends, things will get better. Hang in there, and work on YOURSELF. My therapist stopped me from coming to her right before I graduated because she said school had done more for my self-esteem than anything she could have said or done. So find what trips YOUR trigger---and then DO IT. It's never to late to follow YOUR dream---I went back to school at 45, and will be 50 when I get my degree---but I would've been 50 no matter what I did, so I'm just glad the A spurred me on to do something positive for ME. I hope all the names that look so familiar to me are doing well. I made the decision to not come back here a few years ago, I had to let that part of my life go---but I am glad for the others who have to be here that you all are still around to encourage them through this horrible time. Thanks for all you did for ME---I'm a survivor and I made it out the other side, just like most of you predicted I would!
I just popped in to see if I recognized anyone here--I don't know if you'll remember me, but I remember talking a lot to Joy, Sophia, Grace, Lily---and I saw the post someone wrote about where are Amer, Sun13, and Alex----and these were all people who helped me through the most difficult time in my life.... 
Vicky
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