Posted by Lily on 9/19/2007, 10:04 am, in reply to "(no subject)"
When the WS is intent on continuing the A they will lie even when you have clear evidence. They can turn into convincing con men and even can make the BS wonder if their evidence is not real. The therapist should hear your side of the story so they know what you see is going on but I doubt they can share anything your WS has told them. If you ask for ways to handle the evidence perhaps they can give you some tips on how to stand your ground. Often the only thing that changes a WS is when they see their BS walking out the door and all of a sudden reality can hit. However this can backfire and so you need to be prepared that threatening to leave,(actually I would make the WS leave) may not change the status quo. Do they work together? What if you threatened to expose them to the boss? Or if he is married, expose this to his spouse? Sometimes seeing it public knowledge makes the whole thing less appealing.
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