Posted by Joy on 2/23/2007, 6:31 pm, in reply to "Re: Thank you Lily and Joy" Just state the facts as you know them. This is what was seen. That you felt that she had the right to know, that she might need to protect herself. (If that is what you feel). She may not choose to really "see". She might know, but have some kind of arrangement with her Husband. Most betrayed spouses are aware that something is going on,but just haven't been able to figure out what! So many suspicious behaviors and unaccounted time, etc. In a way, once you learn the truth, so many aspects suddenly start to 'make sense'. Now, once she knows, she is going to need some support. Since you might not want to her see this board, then I can suggest some other, more active ones. http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/ Another, now requires membership at a small fee, $10, but a great group: http://www.lifesaviors.com/SI/ Another yahoo group has lots of helpful articles about affairs, affair recovery saved in files, simple to join, but it has a link at the top to this site. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AffairsTalk/ The average wayward spouse denies everything until confronted. Take care, Joy
I wouldn't make accusations, things like "He is a cheat". She will have to deal with it on her own terms.
Then suggest that if she was unaware, that she do her own detective work before she confronts her husband. Let her draw her own conclusions without our judgement.
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