Posted by Lily on 2/22/2007, 11:03 am, in reply to "Re: Thank you Lily and Joy"
Keep it factual. Say that you are a person who cares about her and when you recently were shown the attached photo by a mutual friend and told that the man in the photo was living in a flat with the woman in the photo and other details of his life (which you can spell out for the W) you realized he was cheating on her and, as a friend, you felt you needed to let her know. Tell her you felt you could not do it face to face because you did not want to personally embarass her so chose to tell by private email.
Tell her you are sorry to be the one to tell her and that even though she does not know who you are that she should remember she has many people who care about her and would offer any support she might need.
If you feel she would recognize your way of speaking, which often shows in our writings, have your H frame the words. There is no easy way to break this kind of thing and since you won't be there in person you need to just keep it factual but sympathetic. If you find her depressed at work later you can always ask if she is OK and make it clear you are not only her boss but her friend. Remember that if you take this way of breaking it, you will need to be a real actor to make sure she does not realize it was you.
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