Posted by Sophia You ask the question "Is it time to leave?" Hugs to you,
on 2/18/2007, 11:51 am, in reply to "Is It Time To Leave ?"
Stan,
My answer to that question is that it is time to leave if you two continue to NOT work on your marriage and thus have a lonely existance.
Your wife did not like counselling because she felt guilty.... SHE IS GUILTY, of course she felt guilty!!!!!!!
Your marriage needs a lot of assistance. You have not recovered from her affair(how could you without her help), she has not discovered why she has betrayed you, and both of you have not discovered why the marriage stopped working.
YOU NEED MARITAL THERAPY. This from the most professional therapist that you can find.
A good place to start is with the www.dearpeggy.com website. She has a list of approved therapists all over the country.
To recover from this assault, you need the cooperation of your wife. You need her understanding of your pain and you need her remorce for the betrayal. You also need to recover your trust. Right now, you are getting none of these - so your marriage will not recover.
It is time to leave or to recover your marriage.
I also have been married a long time and our marriage had been scarred with infidelities. We started recovery about 8 years ago. I can honestly say that now our marriage has never been closer or more satisfying.
Sophia
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