Posted by Lily on 2/2/2007, 10:23 am, in reply to "She was a friend"
Your anger and your reaction was normal if a bit overboard. Hopefully she is not going to act on the lawsuit, which I doubt she would want to go through. How is your H behaving now you found out? This is the most important question right now. Is he remorseful and trying to make it up to you? Is he willing to go to counceling if you ask for it? Has he answered all your questions openly? When you get home do you think he will have ended all contact with her? And most important, do you believe is was only email or do you think there has also been a physical relationship? Only when you feel you know everything there is to know will you be able to start dealing with your emotions.
Telling the other SP is a touchy subject. They do deserve to know they are living a lie but, as you know, the pain will be bad. Most posters seem to feel that the SP should be told. Perhaps, after you get home, you could give her 24 hours to confess to him or you will tell him? It is always best if the WS tells themselves rather than having someone else tell.
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