Posted by Joy on 1/29/2007, 6:55 pm, in reply to "changes" Just keep your eyes open. Sometimes, the OW just doesn't give up very easily and will be angry with the married man for dropping them! They think that they desearve more from them. They enjoyed the attention. You would think that they would crawl back into that cave and never speak to him again, but, unfortunately, it is not uncommon for them to offer more, to offer to maintain contact with increased secrets. Just ask your husband to not keep secrets from you. That if this woman is trying to contact him, that you will understand that he cannot control her actions, but that you just expect that he will let you know, so you don't find out from somewhere else, and that he end any conversation that is not directly team related. She has a husband to go to with her personal problems. I suggest that since your husband is not admitting any 'affair', that maybe you still consider some couples counselling to strengthen your marriage. Or, maybe a marriage weekend, such as Retrouville or Marriagebuilders.com weekend. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi011_dates.html Don't just sweep this under the rug. Let this be a wakeup call that he is troubled and needs to address his weaknesses. His behavior was hurtful and it will take time to rebuild trust. A good book: "Fall in Love, Stay in Love". It is a combinatin of several of Dr. Harley's books. A good read together. Take care, Joy
Glad to here he is aggreeing to not having this Other Woman around.
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