Posted by jacksjill on 1/29/2007, 9:56 am
since my last post things have changed.
Right after we sent e-mails to each other he was really, really quiet, but kind. Not overly attentive. I gave him the " I don't care what you do" attitude. whether he is here or not, I will survive. He has changed dramatically now, tells me how much he loves me all the time, is more attentive, and helpful. He got a call from another coach about "his" team. I took the message. Gave it to him when he got home. Before he would've called her, discussed it, and then returned the call to the coach. He called back the other coach and said call her, she is taking care of out of season games and conditioning. I was waiting to see what his response was. He could've easily called her, using it as a valid excuse.
He has been talking about doing projects around the house that he has neglected, and started finishing up some of them. He talked last night about coaching next season, but not having her with him. Something he wouldn't even discuss before. Is it progress? We shall see. I don't know if it's his way to get me off their track for a while, or if he has taken me seriously that I'm not putting up with her in my backpocket, and I'm moving on.
As far as her, I could literally spit in her face, but I believe that would give her great satisfaction. I will give her NO attention, I won't confront her, I won't speak to her, I will hold my head up high, and IGNORE her with a smile on my face. That will bother her more. To confront her, tell her off, tell her what I think of her, just let's her know how much she inserted herself into my life. I would rather leave her guessing, than to lower myself to her level!
I'm taking the emphasis off HER, and putting it on HIM. HE is married to me. He is the father of our children. HE made a committment to me. HE broke the trust in our marriage, her husband can deal with her! No matter which way it goes in my marriage....she is nothing to me...one great big ZERO...and I will treat her as such!
wishing you sunshine.......
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