Posted by rachel on 1/27/2007, 4:36 pm, in reply to "Re: My husband Cheated. AGAIN" These are really good points that Lily has made. your situation has not been too dissimilar to mine, and even now (18mths post d-day) the OW is still itching to contact my H. The hardest thing to do is ignore her - but believe me it IS the best thing. when i first discovered the OW was still trying to contact my H (through friends reunited), i stupidly e-mailed her saying leave him alone, leave us alone, she was a loser who should now just accept that gracefully and try to salvage some dignity. well, boy did that get her back up and just made her try even harder. i knew my H would never go back to her, but everytime i read a communication she left my heart would lurch, my suspicions would soar and my anxiety levels were affecting my health. since ignoring her, things have calmed down a lot. recovery is beginning to happen. my problem was i felt compelled to make her understand my pain. but the truth is - the OP really doesn't care! why should they? the OW told me this herself (you and your son mean nothing to me - it's only your H i care about). please, do not go to the other womans work again. put your energy into constructive actions, it will do much more good! (i'm sorry if i've lectured) rachel
hi elizabeth
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