Posted by Elizabeth I have been married eight years this year. My husband has custody of his two boys from a previous marriage. I have been their Mom since they were 2 and 4, they are not 10 and 12. My husband and older son are Bipolar. My husband is an alcoholic. His first affair (that I just found out about happened six years ago. Girl (slut) at his work. Although back then, I was told point blank by both of them nothing happened. NO, no, almost did, but we stopped both of us knowing it was wrong. yadda yadda! Now six years later, I find she is BACK and so is he (with her) Then it is not bad enough that I learn they have slept together for the past month or so (and who even knows if that is true). She calls me (why didn't I hang up) and I listen to her telling me she has been f'ing him for over a month. And all the details of who did what to who. I guess all the details spilled out over three calls from her. On the last call she said "OH and just so you know, six years ago when I told you I did not F him, I lied, I f'ed him then too. I am angry, hurt, crushed, ripped apart. I do love my husband. Leaving is not an option for me, I have two step sons that NEED me, I can't take them with me. I basically have no legal right. Yesterday I went to her work and was cool as cucumber and told her simply to stay away from my husband. I never said Or else, or you better, or if you know whats good, NOTHING I said simply Stay away from my husband. She said I am calling the police, I told her go ahead. Well (as I knew she would) she called him to tell him. He said she ended up hanging up on him. Then he called me and talked for a while before I told him what I did. I have nothing to hide. He said oh I know, I just don't know why you lied to me. OMG So then last night his cell phone kept ringing as he was sleeping in the chair and I was tending the kids. Then he told me the call center (he has a company pay phone) was going nuts. This a.m. he called me and it was revealed that she called and only left a message. Saying she decided not to call the police. She was however afraid. She feared I was far too calm and that I would come after her again. But she was dropping it because she knew their affari was probably over for now. WHAT THE HELL!!!! He professes his undying love. He says how aweful he feels. How he beats himself up all the time. YADDA YADDA I am so angry, but then I turn to sorrow, depression and the feelings of how crushed I am. I would love to crush like I have been crushed. I want to see "them" hurt like I hurt. I have nightmares, I wake up sweating, shaking. I don't know how or if I will heal. And I think of these darling little boys. I am shaking so bad I can't think.
on 1/26/2007, 10:13 am
I am not sure if I can get through this. My story would fill a tractor trailer, or two.
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