Posted by jacksjill on 1/22/2007, 12:58 pm, in reply to "Re: he won't admit it"
Oh he has built a wall, you are exactly right! He keeps avoiding the situation. He has said we should go for counseling, but of course it's b/c I'm nuts. I said well we will go and explain how things happened, and we will see what they say, if they think I'm nuts, or they think you were involved more than you say. That was the end of that. He has always been the most stable, loving caring husband, and this is totally out of context for him. Never in a million years would I believe he would have an affair, until my gut told me so. I truly know in my heart something happened, whether it was emotional or phsyical, I could see it when they were together! It has been a couple months since I confronted him, but the feelings of betrayal, the lost trust, are still there. I don't know how to get past this for myself or my marriage, and he won't admit it. I was wondering if I should just lay low and give him some rope, and see what he does with it. I don't believe he wants to throw our marriage and family away, but I can't go on like this. If the shoe were on the other foot, I would prove to him in every way I could,that nothing was going on. Which I know his reactions of anger and blowing me off, are another sign of hiding something. We are just at a standstill right now. And I'm sitting her with all these feelings, and no place to get them out. Thanks so much for your responses, they really do help. At least to prove to myself I'm not nuts!
Thanks again.
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