Posted by Patience on 1/19/2007, 12:30 pm, in reply to "That doesn't work." My wife now feels that when we divorce that the kids should stay in one household 24/7. Here is what she feels is fair: "As I have said, my top priority in this whole situation is the kids, and I hope it is for you as well. What I am looking to do is this: I want to do everything possible to keep the house so that the kids can stay at Dawn’s and in the Bethany schools. I am willing to do whatever possible to make it happen because I feel it is so important to disrupt their lives as little as possible. I would like our lawyers to look at how we can possibly negotiate our financial assets in exchange for my staying in the house. Since I am working in town as well, this scenario would make the most sense---I am able to take them to/from school & daycare, pick them up within 5 minutes when they are sick, and even bring them to work with me. What I think would work out well for all of us is if I stay in the house and the kids live with me. This would allow you to get a less expensive place to live than if you had to find one with 3 bedrooms, and as I mentioned, you can have most of the furnishings from the house with the exception of some items that I have chosen to keep. More importantly, you can see the kids whenever you want (we would discuss beforehand) and they would just come back home to sleep. It would basically be the same arrangement we have now, but without you living there. I truly want you to have time with them---and they need time with you. You will be able to take them just like you do now, and they can certainly have occasional sleepovers on the floor at your place. This way we can schedule time with the kids as we like rather than being stuck on a constant rotating schedule that is only going to add stress to their lives as well as ours. Then in the future if our financial situations improve we can always revisit the custody arrangement. I hope you would agree that it makes more sense for us to go this route rather than both of us killing ourselves and depriving the kids with trying to support two full residences." When I first read this I was pissed. The way I read it is "take the bedroom set that I don't want along with the couch in the basement and go find a cheap rent so you can continue to pay the mortage for my house. You can see the kids as long as I don't have anything planned with them and I'll even maybe let them stay with you for a night if your nice to me. I want the kids to get what they deserve but I feel this should include time with their father and not just a movie night with a trip to McDonalds. I'm seeking a 3/4 rotating schedule, I want for the kids to spend time with me in a house.
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