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Re: I want to be more special than OW

Posted by Dawn on 6/15/2006, 12:43 am, in reply to "I want to be more special than OW"

I so know that feeling!! My H had an EA and one of the MANY things that REALLY broke my heart was that he made the OW a CD. On it were songs that he felt related to them or would "help her" in her failing marriage. He also wrote to her that he could imagine her singing them too. There were songs on the CD (I found the email and note that he sent her that had a songlist) that I considered "my songs". You know the ones that you sing in the car, play while house cleaning, ones that he knew meant a lot to me too that I'd sing. He betrayed me beyond what I thought capable. And at first I wanted a FCK CD!! But then I too felt that he would only be making one because I asked. And it really sucked because he used to make me cassette tapes, remember those, in college often. Why does that shit disappear so easily in a marriage?? He writes song lyrics too and claims he didn't write her one. I don't believe him. And I honestly want to tell him that no song or CD could take the pain away anyway. But where would that get me? In the end I guess we should accept the now. What does he do now for the relationship that IS working. And maybe the two of you could come up with a BRAND NEW little something that only you do for each other. That's where I'm at now. Hope that helps. Feeling your frustration Dawn

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