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Posted by Heather on 8/1/2003, 10:29 am For three years I have been with a man that i think may be verbally and emotionally abusive. When things began he was great - very caring of how i felt and what i wanted to do. After about 6 months things went down hill. I heard day in and day out (of course he says he was joking) that I was ugly or a whore or a slut. Meanwhile i never even looked or expressed intreset in another man. He would play mind games with me and never apologize for anything. He would belittle me and tell me that because i drive a certian car i was white trash. He degraded me for school and on one instance i can remeber - I graduated with an associated degree and i was all excited. I called him and he said i really don't want to see you tonight but i guess come over. Well i went over and he told me that i was smothering and he jsut wanted to be left alone. This is after 3 years together and that I need to get a life and not depend on him for everything. Well he travels and i barley see him so i figured on the weekends we would spend time together. Next he would constantly play mind games and make me think that his bad mood was cause by me. I would iron shirts and he woudl hell if there was a wrinkle in one and tell me i can't do anything right. I would love to wake him in the morning to breakfest and clean clothes in turn i would get - you burnt the breakfest or I don't want it, just leave you are annoying in the morning and i hate sleeping next to you. My hell came to an end when he dumped me and said that I will be fine with out him and that he can't see me as a life partner. Well 3 weeks later i kissed a mutual friend - he didn't find out and we started seeing each other again (i think personally he sucked me back in) well he find out and got so mad that the degrading started all over again. I am stupid, I am a whore, i am a slut and do on. I will never accomplish anything and He was the only good thing in my life. I am not sure what i am even thinking. Cause people would always tell me how abusive he is and i never saw it. I would justify his actions and blame them on me. I would walk on egg shells for this man and do everything I could to please him. Now i feel like he did all of this because of the way i acted. he attacked every aspect of my emtional being, including family, friends, work and school. Now he says I am dead to him for kissing this man and all potential for us to be together went away because of me. Mean while after 1 week apart he had every intent of doing things with other women and i have concrete evidence, so why am i so bad? I gave him everything and in return he gave me hell. Has anyone gone through this and Am i right for thinking this is abuse?
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Ok here is my story and I hope that someone out there can help me.
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