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Posted by Pam on 7/31/2003, 2:25 pm, in reply to "Harassment" And I get frustrated with people who wont help themselves but just complain and complain all the time. I think it reminds me too much of how my ex would rather complain about everything then do something to make things better, 'cause then he wouldn't have the pleasure of reeming me for whatever it was. So I wind up feeling like these people are just out for attention, and have to remind myself of how stuck I was at certain points in my life - that it took me a while to get a few things in my head before I could do anything to change the pattern. And yeah, those things come into play later when you have another relationship. There are things my husband does that I tend to think he might be doing for reasons other than the reality. Which of course drives him nuts because he certainly doesn't like to be compared to the ex, even if what he DOES isn't the same thing, but I wind up having those feelings creeping in. It's a pain in the butt. We have to work on this stuff for a long time. Just when you think you're doing better, a new circumstance comes along and brings out something else you didn't know you were still holding on to. I mean, I don't think its all bad - we have to be so very careful we do not wind up in another abusive relationship, and that we don't allow ourselves to let things go that are bothering us because we do wind up feeling downtrodden and blaming it on them. For me, I feel like it's a disease I have to deal with for life. Not crippling, not gonna kill me, but I have to take care of myself and pay attention to the symptoms or it will become a major nuisance that can ruin a lot of things that are important to me.
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Oh yeah, trust is a major issue for me. I find myself not believing what a lot of other people say - not that I think they're lying so much as maybe they're exaggerating, or somehow what they're saying isn't really what the truth is.
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