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Posted by Sherry
on 7/30/2003, 8:47 am
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I have been in a relationship/marriage for 4 years and in this time, we have been separated 3 times with each separation lasting 3 to 6 months, twice before he was physically abusive and controlling when I chose to work he left me, after getting back on my feet I filed for divorce and the day it was due to be final my mom had died that am and when I saw him after being separated for 6 months he said he loved me and did'nt want the divorce so I went back to him, since then it has been a roller coaster of mental abuse, I am not allowed to work but I am reemined that caring for our 13 yr housework and waiting on him hand and foot means nothing. I have been ridiculed before outsiders when I have to have three meals a day ready at specific times, do the laundry and house work with no help and jugle the bills while he drinks and smokes pot and stays out from time to time until the wee hours of the morning, I can even be gone to the grocery store without him checking my time, I hate this relationship and want out but the trick is how as he controls the money and makes me account for everything- we went from having sex once every few weeks to now it's been several months and when I tried to discuss it with him he said he did'nt feel like it because I made him mad three weeks ago? Mind you it's been 3 months ago since he even touched me then he turns it around by saying how awful I am that I spend all the money on useless stuff that I don't take good care of our son and so on- the final straw has been ignoring my physical needs as well as my mental ones- I have been picking the wrong type of gentleman and it has been a lifelong problem for me, I have since been hiding a little money back and if it takes me a year I am leaving him, I don't want to keep this cycle going so I am opting for having my own place and just doing what I want for the first time in my life and I don't want to be close to anyone in that manner I am okay knowing I have a long lonely road ahead of me but I reached my point where enough is enough=-I just stumbled across this site and I am glad I stuck around and read some of it too, I am stronger than I knew and somehow I will survive because I choose to. Good luch to everyone out there and may god bless you and keep you safe!
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