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Posted by SoConfused on 7/28/2003, 9:23 am --Yesterday we were talking and he said, "Ever since we got married, things have been going downhill... you're getting kind of b###hy." I said, "Really? Are you serious?" He said, "Well, yeah." I started crying because I felt badly-- maybe I had been b###hy and wasn't aware. As soon as I started crying he said, "Relax, I'm just kidding!" Then later he justified his "joke" by saying that I really have been emotional lately. -He is constantly startling me by tickling me or poking me, and he always laughs when he does this-- I tell him to stop, I get annoyed, and he asks what my problem is. Sometimes he keeps doing it until I get to the point where I am yelling at him to stop. Then he will say, "Wow, I can't joke around with you at all." Sorry, but I do not like to be constantly annoyed by someone tickling me. -Oftentimes he will snap at me in a way that is very cold. I would never speak to him like that. For example, we were late going somewhere (because I overslept) and he said very coldly, "Just get READY NOW." He was so pissed off. He never apologizes for snapping unless it upsets me enough that I cry; then he is very apologetic. -For a while, he would fool around by pretending he was going to hit me. He would wave his hand in the air in front of my face, back and forth like he was slapping me. (He would always do this when we were joking around, never when we were arguing.) Well, one time he miscalculated and accidentally hit me on the nose- I told him if he ever hit me again I would leave, and I told him I wanted him to stop the pretend- hitting. He stopped for a couple of months but this weekend he started doing it again. I pointed out to him that when he did that, my automatic reaction was to flinch, and that I did not like to be flinching from my husband. I told him, once again, to stop the pretend hitting. He didn't seem to get why I was upset. Finally I told him I thought it was mentally abusive and that he needed to stop. So he said he would. I don't know. I don't know what to do...
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I am so confused, I don't know what to think. Sometimes I think my husband is emotionally abusing me even though it seems crazy that I could have gotten into such a relationship. I doubt everything I feel. Almost every time something happens, he will tell me he was just kidding. Here are some recent examples of his behavior:
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