Posted by Wauchula Woman on 8/9/2006, 6:26 pm, in reply to "Lisa.... Take care of..." And Rhonda, I've been a caregiver before myself, not on Alzheimer but with my grandma's stroke and my F-I-L's terminal cancer, remember? So I know that's like the world's toughest and most under-rated job. We've all made promises that we've had to break. And I know how crappy that can make you feel. I had promised my dad I'd let my stepmom live in this house till she died....but she did me so dirty, trying to break my grandfather's will, that I eventually had to break that promise. And yeah, I still feel guilty about it. But just like with everything else, things don't always work out the way that we think they are going to work out. I guess that's just part of life. But Rhonda, the woman you made that promise to, she isn't there anymore. I think with Alzheimer's maybe the spirit already goes on to it's final resting place and all that is left is just the living/breathing shell. I sometimes think that in cases like that, where the person is old and their mind is gone, it might be better to put them to sleep. You know, we'll put a dog to sleep when it's suffering, but we'll let humans die in agony. I mean if I had Alzheimer's and I didn't know nothing, I mean nothing anymore, I'd rather be put to sleep. If a person is cognizant and not suffering, like my Grandma with her stroke, I couldn't say she should be put to sleep. Even though she couldn't move or speak, she knew what was going on. This Alzheimer's thing is a terrible thing because they can just live on and on for years and it's just a terrible, terrible thing at a certain point. I didn't think the Teri Schiavo thing was right because her parents were willing to care for her, she seemed well cared for and even smiled. I don't see why that Michael Schiavo was so intent on pulling the plug on her. He could have divorced her and given her over to her parent's care and let it go. Anyway, back to the point, I know sort of what you are going through and I feel for you. That's one of the world's toughest jobs there. But it is rewarding. And it gave you a chance to give back some of the love she had given you. That's how I saw it with my FIL and my Grandma. I'll be praying for you. Lisa
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because I woke up and just decided I'm done with this job. I made a decision. So with that, I don't care anymore and that took a lot of stress off of me right there. I went to work and everytime someone piled more work on me, I just smiled. Because I know it's over with....they just don't know it yet.
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