your mission is simple....keep infusing your personality into the program ever so slightly through sectionals. Whatever your main instrument is...bond with that section first. Have special sectionals with that section...keep it humorous, give them tiny bits of info and pointers, get to know them, bring them 'pop tarts." Pretty soon you will hook them and then they will be yours.
I have found during my career that sectionals are not just detailed work sessions but that's where you kinda let your hair down, be yourself and let them be them. Sectionals are important bonding times when discipline, rules and such are almost non existent because it's a small group of 8 or less.
I have great success through sectionals in reaching and teaching beyond the music.
I'm in an interesting situation. This is my first year in this particular district, a small 3A. There are two band directors: myself, and the head director. After teaching in two other districts, I am completely happy here. HD and I get along incredibly well, we have support from admin, a great budget, and I could keep going on about the wonderful things this district has to offer.
There is one thing that I am struggling with here, and I am hoping that maybe I could get some advice or encouragement. My HD is not a disciplinarian. He jokes and laughs with the kids, and lets them get away with more sloppy rehearsal etiquette than I do. I am much more firm and structured than he is, and that's just our different personalities, I think.
Here lately, I've been noticing that as a whole, the band kids in this district gravitate toward him. How could they not? It is starting to wear on me, though. The kids in my junior high band are always asking about him if he isn't there. One beginner flat out told me during class that she likes him more than me. I was just passing out new music when I noticed a sticky note on a door written by a kid that says "Mr. X is the best."
Maybe I'm being petty, maybe I need to take a mental health day, but I'm really struggling with this. I talk to the kids every free chance that I get, and I am trying to build relationships with them. My band rehearses well and I have no doubt that they'll do well at UIL, but being a band director is more than just UIL ratings. Any advice?