"This is my first year in this..."
That's why. It's not because you're more strict, it's because they know the HD. Even if they weren't in his class last year, he's a familiar face. Also sometimes being the disciplinarian means that adults come to you 10 years later and tell you how much of an impact you made. Either way, wait a while and it will get better.
I'm in an interesting situation. This is my first year in this particular district, a small 3A. There are two band directors: myself, and the head director. After teaching in two other districts, I am completely happy here. HD and I get along incredibly well, we have support from admin, a great budget, and I could keep going on about the wonderful things this district has to offer.
There is one thing that I am struggling with here, and I am hoping that maybe I could get some advice or encouragement. My HD is not a disciplinarian. He jokes and laughs with the kids, and lets them get away with more sloppy rehearsal etiquette than I do. I am much more firm and structured than he is, and that's just our different personalities, I think.
Here lately, I've been noticing that as a whole, the band kids in this district gravitate toward him. How could they not? It is starting to wear on me, though. The kids in my junior high band are always asking about him if he isn't there. One beginner flat out told me during class that she likes him more than me. I was just passing out new music when I noticed a sticky note on a door written by a kid that says "Mr. X is the best."
Maybe I'm being petty, maybe I need to take a mental health day, but I'm really struggling with this. I talk to the kids every free chance that I get, and I am trying to build relationships with them. My band rehearses well and I have no doubt that they'll do well at UIL, but being a band director is more than just UIL ratings. Any advice?