Even if I was the best person in the world ever, it doesn't mean that everyone will like or respect me. But if what I say and do is true and out of love, the right people will like what I say and how I do things.
Some kids just really don't know or understand what is really good for them until they realize it too late. Is that one beginner really going to have that much power over how I think and feel?
Also a young BD... a mentor of mine gave me some wisdom, but I hope this helps a little.
I'm in an interesting situation. This is my first year in this particular district, a small 3A. There are two band directors: myself, and the head director. After teaching in two other districts, I am completely happy here. HD and I get along incredibly well, we have support from admin, a great budget, and I could keep going on about the wonderful things this district has to offer.
There is one thing that I am struggling with here, and I am hoping that maybe I could get some advice or encouragement. My HD is not a disciplinarian. He jokes and laughs with the kids, and lets them get away with more sloppy rehearsal etiquette than I do. I am much more firm and structured than he is, and that's just our different personalities, I think.
Here lately, I've been noticing that as a whole, the band kids in this district gravitate toward him. How could they not? It is starting to wear on me, though. The kids in my junior high band are always asking about him if he isn't there. One beginner flat out told me during class that she likes him more than me. I was just passing out new music when I noticed a sticky note on a door written by a kid that says "Mr. X is the best."
Maybe I'm being petty, maybe I need to take a mental health day, but I'm really struggling with this. I talk to the kids every free chance that I get, and I am trying to build relationships with them. My band rehearses well and I have no doubt that they'll do well at UIL, but being a band director is more than just UIL ratings. Any advice?