As far as tonguing, clarinets/saxes get told, "Tip of the tongue touches the tip of the reed" and becomes a mantra. With flute it's 'tip of the tongue touches behind the teeth'. As a brass player that one should be the most familiar as flute and brass have more in common many times than they do with woodwinds.
That's my .02 at least. I'm sure there are plenty of other ways/opinions out there!