Ffs, your friend needs to grow a spine. If he wasnít clear, ask. You say he did - once. Ask again. Ask three times. Ask questions until you have answers. If it is critical, the HBD would rather you ask till you get it right than you give up. HBDs are busy and canít remember everything. You have to keep at it.
If the task wasnít completed correctly, point out that you (he) asked for assistance (and if you did it my way you repeatedly asked) and that you canít be expected to read minds.
The entire rest of your post is passive aggressive bullsh. Tell your friend to speak up and learn to communicate like an adult. The fault for not obtaining clear directions lies with him, not a HBD that expected a basic level of competence.
If this is what causes someone to pack it in as an educator they shouldnít be one. This should be a learning experience and nothing more.
Your friend did the equivalent of asking a BD once for a reed in the hallway at the end of the day, then hiding that they couldnít play in class till a chair test a week later, and blaming it on the BD for not giving a reed. Learn. To. Communicate.
If you are a head band director at any size school USA and your second assistant comes to you and asks if they could meet with you one on one to clarify an assignment that was given to them would you
a) wait until the last minute before the assignment should be finished, b) take time when the question was posed, c) not meet at all~ they will figure it out or d) wait until the last minute and omg , there is not time to answer?
This happened to a college friend of mine is relatively new in his position. He did not understand exactly what to do and wanted to sit down with the head director who gave the assignment. Head director either did not want to bother or forgot. My friend did not get the clarification he needed. He completed the job as best he could which turned out to be incorrect. He was reprimanded by the head band director and told that he would never do that assignment again.
I thought this was rather questionable given that he made an effort to have a meeting for clarification.
I cannot think why a head director would do such a thing. My advice to him was to request an after the fact meeting with the head director. Any thoughts?
My friend is crushed ... almost to the point of wrapping it up.... after this year. or at least in that particular school district.