Re: Blame Myself
Posted by Amy on 1/11/2011, 9:37 pm, in reply to "Re: Blame Myself"
I agree that you should not blame yourself. My daughter was born in 1994 (she is soon 17) with PRS. At the time, we had no idea. I blamed myself also. It wasn't until a follow up visit to CHOP in Philly and a wonderful genetics team tested us that we found out it was a genetic abnormality that caused the PRS. It's not necessarily the reason every time - sometimes it just happens. Just remember, everything in life happens for a reason. Enjoy your child and everything that comes with being a mother!
Lots of good wishes for you!
: Hey Valerie...
: Please don't beat yourself up about this!!
: It is only natural that we as moms feel
: responsible and to blame ourselves. I did
: too in the begining. I went through the many
: stages of grief those first few months. I
: went through blame, denial, anger and
: finally acceptance. Nothing you did caused
: this. I finally got to a place where I was
: "this isn't about me..this is about my
: kid, this is her journey and her
: struggle". I needed to quit blaming
: myself so that I could stand up for her and
: help her through this. Once I hit that
: spot, it was much easier to deal with. Just
: try to concentrate on helping your baby and
: being his/her advocate. Things are really
: tough in the begining, but they do get
: better!! There is a light at the end of the
: tunnel, and it is not a train coming at
: you!! My daughter Kate is now almost 3, and
: she is healthy, happy little girl doing
: everything she is supposed too! I would be
: glad to chat with you by email and answer
: any questions you have or just listen to you
: vent. I could also send you some pics of my
: Kate. Hang in there girl!!
: --Previous Message--
: Hi Valerie
: Please dont blame yourself for your child
: having PRS, it did not happen because of
: anything you did or did not do. my pregnancy
: was 100% planned, i took prenatal vitamins
: before i knew i was pregnant, i have not had
: any drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes in over 8
: years, and there is no history of prs in
: either side of the family. It just happens.
: please dont be hard on yourself for it.