My son is 3, and had the pharyngeal flap surgery done six months ago at aged 2.5. Prior to this he had 2 surgeries to try and close and lenghten his palate. His breathing and snoring was really bad right after surgery, and his speech actually seemed to get worse, but now I can say without a doubt that it was the best surgery to date in terms of visible results. His speech has improved 300% - prior to the surgery we could only really understand about 25% of what he said and family and friends couldn't understand anything. About a month after surgery his speech started to suddenly improve drastically and now I understand about 80% (pretty normal for a three year old boy!) and friends and family have no problem understanding him. Our speech therapist is thrilled!! He went from being very delayed in speech, to not far from normal! Our biggest issue was getting him to say words he already knew correctly - he would say new words wonderfully, but it was hard to break old habits. We were VERY nervous about the surgery, but it really made a HUGE difference for us. I'm afraid I can't help with the Sticklers questions, but if you have any questions about the surgery, I'd be happy to let you know about our experience.
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