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Posted by Myrna Hi, Your question kind of answered itself, I think you already know the answer but you might be looking for some kind of "affirmation", If your having children is something he's ben struggling with, why pursue it? he should know that your kids are priority, your son will need so much attention over the next few years with physio or any other kinds of therapies and follow ups, he should know that you come with a package, your kids, and if he cannot open his heart and mind to your kids perhaps he's worth passing off to someone else who can give him the attention he needs. the last thing you want is to have him expect you to give yourself up to him. There's a lot of guys out there, some are more open minded than others are, those who aren't willing to understand the needs of a disabled child simply aren't worth your time or effort to keep happy. Im offering this based on my personal experience, my daughter's father walked out on us the week follwing her diagnosis, he said he couldn't "handle" it. I stayed single for about 2 years using that time to readjust and focus on my daughter's needs, then I slowly eased back into the dating scene. it took a while, a few dates and a few guys to weed out the ones I couldn't see myself with 5 years down the line, I needed someone who was stable, who wasn't into the partying scene, and more so, someone responsible enough that I would feel comfortable having around with us. and here we are today, 9 years later with a 3 year old and my now 14 year old daughter. and she loves him to bits !! so if I were you, I'd take it slow, the company is nice and the friendship/ companionship is nice too but there's plenty more where that can come from if you take your time! and who knows, maybe the right one is under your nose and you don't even know it !! Good Luck !
on December 9, 2006, 12:02 am, in reply to "Divorced, now single parent dating while having a child who is severely disabled."
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