Posted by miles2go on November 7, 2009, 12:30 pm, in reply to "Moon, RD, Virago, other friends. The ball is rolling."
Jen,
I haven't been on this site in awhile, but today I felt compelled to check in...
Good for you and many Congrats!
The ftm trans community, as a whole, is moving away from the "all or nothing" mentality it has held onto for years, towards an acceptance of the beautiful diversity of all trans identities. As more and more trans individuals come out and are recognized in society, the fear that every trans person needs to transition fully and fit into the box of gender norms is diminishing.
Congrats to you and to your family!
Take good care of yourself and them on this wonderful new journey.
Miles
--Previous Message--
: My therapist was thrilled for me. She
: absolutely sees me in a different place with
: all of this. She'll have my SOC letter ready
: for the endocrinologist, dated after Dec. 1,
: when our new health insurance kicks in.
:
: Before, I was terrified of Laurie leaving
: me, the kids rejecting me. Now, I'm simply
: not. I've worked through it all. There's
: space in my relationships for me to do this
: now, with love. They've changed. I've
: changed. I have a great support network in
: place. I'm ready to be totally honest about
: the one last thing that continues to be
: deceiving in my life (at least to others).
: My gender identity.
:
: Next step: Sunday. Talking with a room full
: of transguys about the pros and cons of
: transitioning. I want to be able to speak
: with conviction about my plan not to fully
: transition. Believe me, some will take it as
: an affront. Most won't. But some will. Some
: will think I'm a pussy.
:
: But I'm very clear about what I want and
: don't want. And I really do love those guys.
:
: BTW, I meant what I said about my name. I
: don't want -- like I always thought I would
: -- to start using the name "Ben."
: Ben was my boy name. Ben was my adolescent
: name. I want to leave Ben behind with his/my
: childhood. But I don't want to be a set of
: initials forever either. "JB"
: reflected my state of gender flux, I guess.
: I find myself ready to move on from that as
: well.
:
: So, I told my therapist tonight that I'm
: going to legally change my name to Jen, and
: drop the "nifer." I'm also
: considering changing the spelling of my
: middle name from Rae to Ray. Jen's ambiguous
: enough for me. Hell, Bishop Gene Robinson's
: first name is "Vicky" (for his
: father, Victor).
:
: Keep 'em guessin, I always say ...
:
: Thanks again for the support, guys.
:
: Jen
:
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