Posted by ontheotherside on November 7, 2009, 10:35 am, in reply to "Re: Baby Steps...."
After reading this, I can honestly say, well then I can live with the way I've been feeling for the last three days. excited, scared confused, stressed, excited. this puts it in perspective. Thanks
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: Wow. Sweetgirl, you have completely
: identified our struggle, and successes, with
: this comparison to 'taking baby steps'.
: When I read this, I wished all of us could
: have someone in our lives, cheering us on,
: supporting us, and proud that we have done
: the work it took, to walk, fully, proudly,
: independently on our own, and with
: confidence.
: I think your beautifully written words, have
: made it clear, how our role as AJ members,
: supporting one another, as a community, is
: very important, as we post our own personal
: 'baby steps', along our journey.
: SWEET POST!!!! Thank you for this perfect
: expression of journey, the need for support
: along the way, and the great freedom and
: independence that comes with having done the
: work!!!
: Cheers to you today Sweetgirl!!!!
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: Do you remember when your children, niece or
: nephew began their exploration of the world?
: Do you remember when they first started to
: pull themselves up on the coffee table and
: spent weeks there, up and down, bouncing,
: bending their legs, smiling. Next they
: started to move along the table, chubby
: little hand over hand, smiling. Then came
: the day you looked up and they moved, oh my
: gosh, from the coffee table to the sofa,
: they let go of the table and the momentum
: took them to the next island to explore.
: Their they stood, bouncing, smiling, cooing,
: happy. And that’s when you wanted to see if
: they would take a step toward you. You got
: down on their level, arms stretched out in
: front of you, smiling, reassuring, patient,
: wanting to touch their little fingers, to
: help them along, but excitingly waiting for
: them to do this all by themselves. And then,
: it happened. They took that first little
: baby step, scared but excited, small but
: sure and they left the security of the sofa
: behind them and towards you, excited, happy,
: proud and you wrapped them in your arms and
: hugged them, big. : )
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: When your child began to explore even more,
: he didn’t leap from one side of the room to
: the other, he simply walked, slowly at
: first, a few small baby steps. He fell a
: number of times, sometimes we were there to
: say, hop up buddy, shake it off, keep going.
: Sometimes we were in the other room and
: missed the progress completely, but he still
: kept going. He took those baby steps and we
: cheered with excitement for each one. When
: he stopped and swayed and locked his little
: knees we were sure he was going to fall but
: we were right there, encouraging him to take
: that next step, to keep going until he
: reached the other side of the room, elated,
: proud!
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: I think we should all be reminded that steps
: in our struggle are not going to be giant
: steps at first but rather small baby steps,
: small victories for ourselves that build our
: muscles and increase confidence in order to
: walk our walk. Some days we may not even
: leave the coffee table but just stand there,
: bouncing, fine, ok and managing, but most of
: all secure. Secure in the routines of
: family, work, staying busy, not alone but
: safe. Other days we want to explore our
: world, what we are feeling, someone who has
: touched our lives like no other and we step,
: baby step, toward them and toward a true
: authentic life for ourselves. Some days we
: fall. Many of you have someone their with
: you, clapping, encouraging you when you
: step, holding you when you fall. Others of
: you are trying to do this alone.
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: When our little ones began this process we
: applauded them for the progress they had
: made, we showered them with kisses and hugs
: and told them how proud we were of them. We
: actually put them back down and hoped they
: would do it again! We didn’t simply put them
: in a walker because their journey was over,
: no, we started to encourage them daily to
: keep going, keep taking these baby steps. We
: recognized when they were tired, we held
: them, we let them rest and then we
: encouraged them when they were ready. I
: think it’s important to remember that the
: most important thing we can do is to keep
: stepping. It matters not how small your
: steps are or how long it takes you to get to
: the other side of the room or if you happen
: to fall backwards. What matters is that you
: keep stepping because what you deserve is
: the opportunity for good things. You deserve
: to love fully and completely in a way that
: speaks to you, foundationally, honest, true.
: You deserve to be treated well and you
: deserve to have the feelings you remember
: alive and on the surface and not pushed down
: inside.
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: And remember how excited and proud you were
: to share how your little one took their
: first steps, started to walk, stand on their
: own? This is where we, here on the other
: side of this struggle, find ourselves. We
: want to share, we want to be there. We are
: already here, we are proud of your baby
: steps and we are here when you don’t feel
: like stepping at all and it’s ok. We want to
: be there when you fall, smiling,
: encouraging, loving you. And we will be here
: when you get there, and join you, one baby
: step at a time.
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