Posted by sweetgirl on November 4, 2009, 10:47 am You all matter.. you are all special, when you look in the mirror, please know that you are loved, that you matter.
Message modified by user sweetgirl November 4, 2009, 10:57 am
We do it every day, we wake up, we shower, we get dressed, we look in the mirror and we are unable to see the beautiful reflection. We see the same image day in and day out, our routine, going through the motions, it’s uneventful. We rarely stop and really look closely. Perhaps it’s just too painful to look so closely, to see ourselves. We’ve told ourselves, we are unlovable, we don’t deserve good things. I’m sure some of us see our wrinkles and grey hair. Others see a layer we are hiding behind. Others see a manicured image, fixed up, perked up, enhanced for self but also because a small part of us thought others would notice, that it would matter, change things. Many of us see our roles.. mother, wife, friend, lover, but very rarely do we see what we should see first, ourselves.
I think it’s also important to be reminded that when we look in the mirror, what we _don’t_ see is, our husbands, our children, our girlfriends, the loves we lost or the loves we desire. There is no one there, just you. Your H may walk by or your kids may jump in there to play, but when _you_ look in the mirror, there’s no one else to love, care for, or protect other than _you_!
And I think this is where we should start….
Many of you are struggling because you are coming to terms with your feelings, your intimate self, why you’ve made choices you’ve made, why you didn’t make others. You struggle with where you find yourself now and how could things possibly be any different. You’re trying to manage your heart’s true desire and the realization that the person you love, this woman who has touched your life, is someone you want to open up to, share with, allow her in, love her, share with her, grow with her, be at peace.
I think it’s important to remember that self focus is not selfish. It’s not wrong to allow yourself the opportunity for better things. It’s not wrong to allow yourself the opportunity to love, truly, in a way that “fits” you. It’s not wrong to allow your H to love someone else who will truly love him back, someone who can. It’s not wrong to want to continue to raise your children with honesty and courage. It is not wrong to ask someone for something you need. It’s not wrong to remind someone there needs to be a balance in the struggle. It’s not wrong to look in the mirror and say, I matter.
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