Posted by elphaba on November 4, 2009, 8:28 am, in reply to "Possibly very silly questions about gayness"
I feel as though I seamlessly entered my gf's world (she is a LLL). It is where I belong. As many have already stated, it is the effect on everyone else (h, kids, parents, sibs, friends) that has made it painful - not the realization of who I am. It is the debris that was left behind when I left my former life. It is the process of getting accustomed to the new reality that is a challenge. I also live in a very liberal area and holding my gf's hand in public or greeting her with a kiss seems very natural - I rarely think about it. The life fits.
--Previous Message--
: For many here it seems that “coming out” is an
: event of a lifetime….it is a sigh, a relief,
: confirming. It is finding one’s authentic
: self and finally living truthfully after
: years of struggle.
:
: But I wonder, are there others of you who
: have morphed het to gay with much less
: fanfare. Has anyone found the change to
: being with a woman so natural that it is
: less like having crossed a shark-infested
: moat for the blue ribbon and more like
: changing lanes on a hwy in the middle of the
: desert? Now, I don’t mean in any way that
: there is a lack of excitement or love and
: happiness, only that it doesn’t feel either
: extremely weird-strange or like an “ah-ha I
: know myself now” moment, which if you’ve
: been het. all your life you think you might
: feel. Can one really slip into this being
: gay thing that easily..shouldn’t it be much
: more complicated…and if it’s this easy, can
: anyone do it or is this a supreme
: affirmation of gayness? Just wonder if
: everyone is capable of loving another woman
: if they just opened themselves up to it.
: What do straight women think about it?
: Ponder ponder.
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