Posted by michelle on November 3, 2009, 8:18 pm, in reply to "Possibly very silly questions about gayness"
It's funny, I was just thinking today how 'easy' it was for me to realize that in fact I want/need to be with a woman, here in my mid-40s, after never having had an inkling ever, and after being married for almost 8 years.
Mind you, the divorce part S*cked, big time, but the whole 'realization' that I was gay part was almost effortless, once I got it. For me, there was no struggle whatsoever, not at all. It was like changing lanes--'oh, i like women, wow, this is awesome, okay, I'm gay, end of story.' I don't know what that 'means,' because I know for many it's not like that at all. I've never had a trace of homophobia, so maybe that helps.
--Previous Message--
: For many here it seems that “coming out” is an
: event of a lifetime….it is a sigh, a relief,
: confirming. It is finding one’s authentic
: self and finally living truthfully after
: years of struggle.
:
: But I wonder, are there others of you who
: have morphed het to gay with much less
: fanfare. Has anyone found the change to
: being with a woman so natural that it is
: less like having crossed a shark-infested
: moat for the blue ribbon and more like
: changing lanes on a hwy in the middle of the
: desert? Now, I don’t mean in any way that
: there is a lack of excitement or love and
: happiness, only that it doesn’t feel either
: extremely weird-strange or like an “ah-ha I
: know myself now” moment, which if you’ve
: been het. all your life you think you might
: feel. Can one really slip into this being
: gay thing that easily..shouldn’t it be much
: more complicated…and if it’s this easy, can
: anyone do it or is this a supreme
: affirmation of gayness? Just wonder if
: everyone is capable of loving another woman
: if they just opened themselves up to it.
: What do straight women think about it?
: Ponder ponder.
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