Posted by want2bfree on November 3, 2009, 5:30 pm, in reply to "Re: Possibly very silly questions about gayness"
When I was with my first I thought would feel guilty because I was still married, but it was so natural. Everything felt so right. Every move was like I had been there all my life. That was not the ah ha moment. It was all the big crap afterwards.
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: the transition to gayness, was VERY easy for
: me. Too easy in fact. Me and my gf always
: sat there and siad, "we shouldn't be
: this comfortable" "this shouldn't
: be THIS natural" Even the coming out
: process (besides the issues with my H and
: his upsetness) was pretty easy for me.
: Helps that my mom is gay I suppose.. but it
: was just a natural transition, that was very
: easy.
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: For many here it seems that “coming out” is
: an
: event of a lifetime….it is a sigh, a relief,
: confirming. It is finding one’s authentic
: self and finally living truthfully after
: years of struggle.
:
: But I wonder, are there others of you who
: have morphed het to gay with much less
: fanfare. Has anyone found the change to
: being with a woman so natural that it is
: less like having crossed a shark-infested
: moat for the blue ribbon and more like
: changing lanes on a hwy in the middle of the
: desert? Now, I don’t mean in any way that
: there is a lack of excitement or love and
: happiness, only that it doesn’t feel either
: extremely weird-strange or like an “ah-ha I
: know myself now” moment, which if you’ve
: been het. all your life you think you might
: feel. Can one really slip into this being
: gay thing that easily..shouldn’t it be much
: more complicated…and if it’s this easy, can
: anyone do it or is this a supreme
: affirmation of gayness? Just wonder if
: everyone is capable of loving another woman
: if they just opened themselves up to it.
: What do straight women think about it?
: Ponder ponder.
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