Posted by meadow on November 2, 2009, 10:47 pm, in reply to "Re: QUESTION: do you feel like your mother "got you" or "didn't get you"?"
1. My mom and I have always been close. We often think/believe things at similar times even though we are a few hours apart and at different spots in our lives (I'm doing the family thing, she's the single college gal...I know, right? LOL) I have no problem telling her I'm bi/gay/whatever. My problem is that I think it's only fair to my husband to tell him, first. I haven't figured out how to do that, yet...
2. Mom and I have learned how to talk to each other. Actually, she learned how to talk to people through self-study/books/etc., and then taught me. I guess that means we practice talking together? Our styles in reacting to people are similar, though I am much more emotional than she is...she is calmer, less likely to show exactly how she feels about something. The things she taught me about communication, though, have been extremely important in helping me be emotionally open (I tend to close down, because confrontation is so difficult for me.)
3. Yes, my relationship with my mom has influenced what I want in a partner. I enjoy sharing things with her, and I want the same in my other relationships. I like that she is not judgmental in most areas and that she thinks empathetically, as well.
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: 1 - self-disclose, esp your experience w/
: your moms. what was your emotional life like
: w/ your mother? are you close w/ your mom?
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: 2 - and then i am wondering if you have any
: thoughts/insight into your own emotional
: style and how if at all your relationship w/
: your mom has anything to do w/ your ability
: to be, or not be, emotionally available and
: emotionally accessible?
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: 3 - does your relationship w/ your mom have
: anything to do w/ what you want from a
: relationship partner?
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