Posted by Roxanne on November 2, 2009, 1:58 pm, in reply to "How Did You Meet Her? What Happened? "
.: How did you meet the woman you love? How
: did the relationship develop? Was she gay
: or straight (or both?) How long before you
: told her your feelings for her? How did she
: take it?
First of all I found this board because I read Joanne's book, I highly recommend it.
I am married, was living my life with my two young kids. I am a SAHM. I joined a mom's group. And became friends with one of the women in the group. Over the course of a couple years we went from aquaintences that saw each other at playgroups, to real friends. We started talking a lot on the phone and through IM. We started getting closer, I started telling her intimate details about me and she did about herself. I then considered her my best friend, as I never was this close to anyone. But the reality of it was I was falling in love with her. We had a lot of flirting going on between the two of us and a lot of banter going back and forth. I didn't realize it at the time, because I didn't know what flirting with a women looked like.
One day in a phone conversation I told her I was having weird thoughts about her, she admitted having the same. Yet we didn't admit what those thoughts were exactly. I then admitted to having some dreams about her, she admitted the same. So from then on, we kinda just knew something was going on between us. Then in Aug. 2008, after a mom's night (that she was in attendance to), I realized I was totally in love with her. I went into my basement and bawled my eyes how. How can this be, how can I be in love with a women. My marriage as I knew it was over, my life was changed forever, there was no going back and in that instant I knew it.
BTW, she was "straight" married with 3 kids, and a SAHM. Of course we both know we aren't straight now.. but you know, at the time we both thought we were. lol So we started hanging out pretty often. Doing a lot of things together. One day back in Sept. 2008 we were at a pumpkin farm and she told me, "you cannot stand this close to me, I'm getting bothered" and I was like, "OMG, thank god I'm not the only one, so am I" That day on the way home, we held hands in the car. Oct. 10th, I was over at her house, my husband was texting me back and forth, we were fighting. My gf says to me, "Why don't you go home and deal with him, why are you here" and I blurted out, "because I LOVE you" and then quickly I said, "well you know what I mean, not love, love.. but I like you" It was too late, she knew it wasn't a joke. Later that night we had our first kiss. It was an akward first kiss, but a couple weeks later we made up for it. And we have been together ever since.
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