Posted by happily ever after on November 2, 2009, 12:40 pm, in reply to "Re: waiting"
thank you sweetgirl. Yes, you have been very helpful. We are all just trying to do the best we can.
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: I recently had a dinner outing with a group
: of friends and was so happy that Eric and
: Jose were there. Eric is a father of 4,
: recently divorced and gay who now has a
: wonderful partner, Jose. For 4 years Eric
: has been fighting an unusual ban in his
: small county that prohibited Jose from being
: around Eric’s children. It was a long,
: expensive battle all the way to the state
: supreme court. The love Eric has for his
: children and the love that he has for Jose
: prevailed. This past June on Father’s Day,
: they all spent the day together and have had
: many more since. He now co-parents with his
: xwife and Jose is there by his side. It was
: worth the wait!
:
: My best buddy is gay, had been with her
: partner for 11 years and they have TRIPLETS
: who are five. She once connected with a
: woman through work, who was married. Several
: years later they reconnected on a different
: level. Life was different and they fell in
: love. Her GF was at the end of her marriage
: and she and her husband separated, he moved
: out, she and her daughter stayed in the
: house. My friend and her partner moved to an
: in-house separation, for the kids. It’s been
: hell, but my friend has managed to put
: herself first and her children have thrived.
: My friend moved out on her own three weeks
: ago. 23 months after falling in love, there
: are still some boundaries in place but she
: and her gf and their children are together
: very often, the kids are still thriving and
: they are living life together. It was worth
: the wait!
:
: I don’t know the details of your situation
: but I hope offering these examples might be
: helpful. The wait or not to wait decision is
: uniquely personal and I think you’ll find
: some positive experiences here on AJ. I
: think you’ll also find that the successes
: were because there was honest/open
: reciprocal communication at all times
: possible, acceptance of self, patience,
: respect for one another’s position because
: you both have your own struggle, with
: complete understanding of circumstances and
: knowledge that at times, you need to allow
: yourself the opportunity to step away from
: the struggle, if only for a moment and focus
: on your love. Just that, your love. It would
: seem after 4 years that you have these
: qualities in your relationship. I hope more
: will post and share their experiences.
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