Posted by Grateful on October 31, 2009, 12:14 pm, in reply to "my kids' last day..."
BJ, I remember so well the feelings and thoughts you are having.
Just remember this--as far as the gay thing--most kids don't really care that much in the end--it is the fact that you are being honest and up front that will mean the most to them when they have a little time to process.
It has been my experience that the divorce is the harder thing for kids. But it has also been my observation that when you go in prepared and your H and you have thought this through, are a solid unit for them and there is no bitterness. that the kids come through it ok. It may not have been what you envisioned for them, but growth is about change and often pain. I know that it is easy to say, but it really is true. I really firmly believe that you and your H have done all of the right things and are approaching this with sensitivity and honesty--they will be ok. You are great parents to do this with so much thought and love.
Wishing you all the best.
--Previous Message--
: ... to look at me without thinking 'gay'
: ... to look at me without wondering how i
: could break up the family
: ... to look at me without wondering how i
: could do this to their dad
: ... to look at me without wondering how i
: could do this to them
: ... to think of themselves as kids of
: married parents
: ... to not be a member of the children of
: divorced parent club
: ... to be able to refer to me in
: conversations with friends without
: embarrassment
: ... to not worry about where they will live
: in the future
: ... to not feel like they're at the bottom
: of a canyon between two parents high up on
: either side
: ... of security
: ... of innocence
:
:
: these are my thoughts at this moment.
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: bj
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