Posted by Sasha1 on October 30, 2009, 11:02 am, in reply to "thank you for your response"
A - You are right - I was only commenting on your earlier question/remark about those unable to speak up. Throwing stones and not expecting them to bounce back at you is not realistic.
C - Sounds like we all have a lot to learn! I understand how daunting it must seem to those who feel attacked for being
i-their-ho, real and honest, to feel criticized for being just that. I like the minefield description.
Thanks to you both for the thoughtful discussion!
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: seems to me a lot of the time the sensitive
: types present as more passive ,
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: and the tuff/rough types as more active .
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: and it is the action orientation of the
: ruff/tough types that call attention to
: their role in conflict when they
: inadvertently or otherwise have stepped on
: the toes of those more sensitive.
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: i mean, i do this all the time, apparently
: -- step on ppl's toes, freq because she has
: some secret vulnerability i had no idea
: about.
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: it is like a field of land mines when she
: cannot/will not/does not know how to be open
: and honest and forthcoming. see what i mean?
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: i am willing to meet half way, if she can
: try and be more open and trusting, i am more
: than willing to be more sensitive and
: unassuming.
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: it is just so hard when someone closes down,
: or is not open, see what i mean?
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