Posted by curious on October 30, 2009, 9:52 am, in reply to "Re: not to mention"
help me out here please, maybe you can explain it to me:
"The sensitive ones think the others are insensitive"
it seems to me it is more than just this dichotomy of sensitive v tuff/rough interpersonal styles.
there seems to also be a breakdown in communication.
because imho the sensitive ones are not expressing and communicating -- honestly -- where they are at.
in other words, seems to me there may be and probably are problems of assertiveness and trust.
-- she is not being assertive in stating she is getting overwhelmed and flooded. (so how is anyone supposed to know someone else is getting overwhelmed? by magic?)
-- she is hiding her secret sensitivities, probably from and though lack of trust. (then why can't she just say "i am having a hard time trusting you right now").
i mean these -- assertiveness, being honest about secret sensitives -- are skills, right?
if she does not have skills to say --
"hey i feel overwhelmed" and
"i am really feeling vulnerable about this issue ongoing or about this topic here and now",
then isn't that part of the prob?
if yes, then this gets to my real questions:
how can we encourage sensitive types to be more assertive, honest and trusting?
how can we be sensitive to these issues that sensitive types need help in being assertive and trusting us to be honest and not hide secret sensitivities?
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