Posted by Sasha1 on October 30, 2009, 9:46 am, in reply to "sasha--earnest question"
No worries, Ayzika, I totally understand your question. The funniest thing to me is that I have never once, ever, called myself bisexual! I keep saying I don't label myself but other keep labeling me bisexual! This really amuses me. All I said in the old thread is that I have been married for 8 years, am desperately in love with a woman, cannot imagine being with a man again but could never say that it is impossible......and SLAP! I'm labeled! I don't know what I am and finding a label for myself is, at this point, way down on my list of priorities. Figuring out how to earn some money, keeping my child, not dealing with H.s mood swings and figuring out how to be with my gf, who lives in another country, all take priority. Some people seem to be uncomfortable with this, but I am not and that is really all that matters.
On to your question, I have never been attacked by name, but if we use the bisexual thread as an example, I felt that some where being very disparaging, based on their own experiences and beliefs, about how others might see themselves. I think there was a lot of negativity directed at those who considered themselves Bi (again, I am not one of them) and it could have been a lot more of a trying to understand each other kind of vibe than it was - I think it evolved to that but wasn't for a while. I think this thread is a perfect example of how to respectfully debate and try to understand each other. Thank you!
--Previous Message--
: Please take this question in the spirit in
: which it is asked--which is to get a better
: handle on what people find offensive here.
:
: I recall you expressing your
: discomfort/distaste for a recent thread
: discussing bisexuality. I don't think I read
: every post in the thread, but I do believe
: that none of the posts I did read were
: directed at you or mentioned you, by name or
: otherwise. So at least in the portion of
: the thread I read, there was no attack on
: you personally . At least not as I
: understand the term "personal
: attack".
:
: What I would like to understand is whether
: you see it differently? Did you take that
: thread as a personal attack because it was
: about bisexuality and you are bisexual? When
: a group of which you are a member is
: discussed, do you see that as amounting to a
: personal attack on you?
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